"Sex-positive, a term that’s coming into cultural awareness, isn’t a dippy love-child celebration of orgone – it’s a simple yet radical affirmation that we each grow our own passions on a different medium, that instead of having two or three or even half a dozen sexual orientations, we should be thinking in terms of millions. “Sex-positive” respects each of our unique sexual profiles, even as we acknowledge that some of us have been damaged by a culture that tries to eradicate sexual difference and possibility. It’s the cultural philosophy that understands sexuality as a potentially positive force in one’s life, and it can, of course, be contrasted with sex-negativity, which sees sex as problematic, disruptive, dangerous. Sex-positivity allows for and in fact celebrates sexual diversity, differing desires and relationships structures, and individual choices based on consent."
Carol Queen (via feminismduh
"A lubricated vagina does not mean that a woman consents to sex. Having a lubricated vagina is not an invitation to penetrate it. An orgasm does not mean consent. An orgasm is a physical response to stimulation of genital organs. An orgasm is not a crime. Rape is. Not wearing any underwear does not mean that a woman consents to sex. Not wearing any underwear is not a crime, rape is. Being drunk or stoned does not mean consent to sex. In fact, being drunk or stoned prevents you from giving consent. Sending someone naked photos of yourself does not mean consent to sex. Taking off your own clothes does not equal consent. If you are afraid for your life, or afraid of violence, and take of your clothes because you think it would be safest thing to do in the situation, you have not given your consent. You have been forced. The sexual positions that are taken up in a rape do not mean consent. Submitting to a particular sexual position after being forced into sex is not evidence of anything. Being a lesbian does not mean consent to sex. Being a lesbian does not mean you need to be shown what you are missing. Sexual orientation is not a sexual invitation. Being a wife, or a husband, or a daughter, or a son, does not mean consent. Rape happens in marriage, domestic partnerships, between ex-partners and between family members."
Rape Crisis Cape Town Trust Statement on the #itsnotrapeif Twitter phenomenon